The topic of this blog post kind of jumped into my head this morning when I glanced at the gallery wall across the room as I got ready for work. When I took a look at it, a few reoccurring phrases replayed in my head and I got to thinking.
Those reoccurring phrases go along the lines of “it’s super cute, BUT once you have kids you’ll never have something like this again” or “that was totally us, until we had kids and we had much more important photos to hang” or “couples houses (without kids) are always full of photos of just them”.. which leads me to the point of this post.
While I don’t know what it’s like to physically have children, or have a household of children, I do have a hope that if I do, a gallery wall like this will still be on my wall.
I want this wall forever in my house, heck I want you to have this wall in yours (of your own photos, otherwise that would just be weird)
Like my photo disclaimer says, this gallery wall does make me want to gag a little if I look at it for more than a glance BUT it also shows when it all started, and a bit of foundation too. A good glance here at either photos, initials or motto while you’re slightly annoyed picking up socks for the 8393939 time will put it all into perspective.
I want a wall for my kids to see showing and being proud of your love is encouraged, I want my kids to see that while they are important, so is this relationship.
As someone who has grown up with divorced parents, and can’t remember a time of togetherness, I want to set an example of a parent relationship. Sure, maybe they will want to gag when they see it, but often the best lessons are ones you look back on and go “OH”.
I think it’s a little heartbreaking to come up and say “our kids school photos are more important than a photo of the two of us” because that foundation is what built what you have now.
I don’t think it’s a one or the other photo, it can always be both, and should be both. Take the family photos, take the couple photos, show your kids how important they are, but also set the example of a good partnership. For one day, they will be setting the foundation or their grown lives, and finding and making their important photos.